Category: Sexuality

Lust. It’s a supercharged word, one with power to stir up all sorts of things in our hearts when we hear it. That’s because for Christians who are seeking to submit our sexual desires to God, struggle and failure in this deeply personal, deeply significant area often brings with it an equally penetrating sense of shame and, at times,

Several months ago, I heard a startling statement from a pastor: “Nine out of 10 couples who come in for premarital counseling are not waiting until marriage for sex.” This statistic shocked me, but I guess it shouldn’t have. I have noticed similar patterns in my own Christian circles. I’ve heard more than one dating

“Christians come to talk with me, distraught because sex on their wedding night was nothing like they expected… and definitely not what they hoped for.” My friend Liza Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in Christian sex therapy, told me this the other day. Many of the women come to her in tears, not

During college, when I decided to grow a mullet and go to Peru and design my own tattoo, my parents let me. I can imagine them in bed each night reminding each other, “Well, it could be worse. At least he hasn’t pierced his ears.” For some reason, getting my ears pierced was one of

“I’m just scared my coworkers will ask if I’m a virgin.” This and a bunch of other concerns surfaced after I wrote “Other Reasons to Wait Until Marriage,” so I thought I’d respond. What if they ask if I’m a virgin? When someone asks me if I’m a virgin, I smile and say, “You’re gonna