Married Guilt: On Leaving the Single Life

In my twenties, I formed a sisterhood stronger than almost any other I’ve ever experienced. I met a group of girls who I lived my life with, in its entirety. We laughed together, we cried together, we shopped together, we worshipped together, and mostly we were single together. These were my roommates, my best friends,

Why Marriage Is Better Than I Imagined

I’ve been married for six months. And it’s been six months of awesomeness.  But I wasn’t expecting it to be so awesome. Growing up in Christian culture, I heard the “marriage is hard” message loud and clear. Sermons, books, conferences, even songs on the Christian radio station all reminded me that marriage is hard and

3 Lessons From 3 Weddings

Over the past four weekends, my husband and I attended three out-of-town weddings. Though we’re done attending weddings for the foreseeable future, I can’t get weddings off my mind. At the most recent wedding I attended, the pastor reminded the guests of a truth I had heard before but too often forget: The Bible begins and

How Roommates Helped Prepare Me for Marriage

“How can I be better prepared for marriage should God eventually bring someone into my life?” As someone who serves in single adult ministry, I get this question often. Those who ask it are often surprised by my response: “Find a roommate!” After community college, I moved from home to attend a university that required first-year students

Guys, Shut Up and Listen

Good communication is key to any relationship. If you’re talking with your girlfriend or husband or boss or friend or even a stranger on the street, you’ll never make much progress or maintain a healthy relationship if you can’t communicate effectively. I have two degrees in communication, so let me impress you with my vast

Should You Get Engaged? – Boundless

Thirty-two years ago I asked the question before the question. Recently my two sons did the same. Every year 2.3 million couples ask the same question. Though the question can be asked in as little as four words — “Should I get engaged?” — the potential impact is huge. That’s why if you’re currently considering

Your Future Marriage Is Bigger Than You

When you first meet Ryan and Cyndi Livingston, you are immediately drawn in by their smiles and genuineness. They truly care about everyone. At church picnics, while everyone else is comfortably sitting with their group of friends, they spot the not-so-popular or new people who are by themselves and go chat with them. They are